Just for Today – Step Away From the FEAR

FEAR. Gripping, crippling, crushing FEAR. “What if he doesn’t….” “What if she does….” “How can I….” “Maybe if I….” “I should have….” “I’ll never…” “If he doesn’t….” These are the phrases that come tumbling out when loved ones of people who struggle with the brain disease of alcoholism or drug addiction call me. I can…

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Our Shameful Treatment of the Incarcerated Mentally Ill

I was compelled to write about our shameful treatment of the incarcerated mentally ill after listening to KQED’s The California Report program, titled: “Lawmakers Push for More Mental Health Spending,” by April Dembosky. In her story, Ms. Dembosky reported Darrell Steinberg, California’s Senate president pro Tem and his allies “…want to spend $132 million on efforts…

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Darlene Lancer on Obsession and Love Addictions

Darlene Lancer on Shame

Darlene Lancer, author of Codependency for Dummies, shares her thoughts on obsession and love addictions in her following guest post… Just as an addict obsesses on his drug of choice, as codependents, we obsess on the addict. Obsessions, although painful, can keep us in denial of even more painful feelings and fears. Thus, it can…

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Join the Addiction Recovery Movement

Change happens. Sometimes it’s rapid. Sometimes it’s so slow you wonder if it’s ever going to really change. One such “is it ever going to really change” movements is the Women’s Rights Movement. In my “before,” I studied the Women’s Rights Movement and wrote two biographies, one on Elizabeth Cady Stanton and one on Susan…

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