Key Information About Alcoholism

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How many times has your loved one promised to stop or cut down their drinking only to relapse – again? How many times have they looked you straight in the eye and said, “No,” when you ask if they’ve been drinking? How many times have they driven, ruined a family gathering or hurt your feelings deeply…

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Parental Alcohol Use Disorder Causes Trauma

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Growing up in a home with parental alcohol use disorder “can feel like life in a war zone,” writes frequent guest author, Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, in her article below. Darlene is the author of Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You, and her latest eBook is titled, Dealing with a Narcissist, 8…

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Wondering if You Drink Too Much?

Wondering if you drink too much? This can be a tough question to answer. And who even knows or decides what’s too much? Is it drinking a couple Scotch on the rocks most evenings? Is it buying a 24-pack of beer on Fridays and finishing it by Sunday night but not drinking the rest of…

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Boundaries in the Pandemic

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“How are your boundaries in this pandemic?” asks frequent guest author, Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT. “We all have needs for independence and closeness. But when we’re close with our partner and family all the time, tensions rise,” she explains. And it is these tensions that give rise blurred boundaries and the difficulties that follow. Darlene…

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Communication in Families with Alcohol Use Disorder

Communication in families with alcohol use disorder can feel like a minefield of misunderstandings. It’s just about impossible to say what you really want to say because that would be taking a stand against drinking behaviors. And we feel paralyzed just considering doing something like that. Think about it. Can you imagine telling someone who…

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Codependency – Secondhand Drinking | Drugging Connection

Understanding the codependency – secondhand drinking | drugging connection offers an opportunity to reframe a confusing subject. In this reframing, we better help those coping with a loved one’s drinking or drug use behaviors seek the help they need for their own health’s sake. Codependency Explained The term “codependent” is often used in the world…

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Why Codependents Find It Hard to Receive

Why codependents find it hard to receive is a question answered in today’s post by frequent guest author, Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT. As Darlene writes, “Codependents, find it hard to receive. Codependents are more comfortable giving or even self-sacrificing than receiving. Yet they wonder why they’re….” Darlene is the author of Codependency for Dummies and Conquering Shame and…

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