Help Families Navigate a Loved One’s 1st Year of Recovery

Help Families Navigate the 1st Year of Recovery

Help families navigate a loved one’s 1st year of recovery from addiction is critical to family members’ health and well-being. Just because their loved one started recovery is not going to take care of what happened to them.  Why is this so important to understand? Nearly 100 million Americans and hundreds of millions more worldwide…

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Change your life – Change where you think

End Stigma | Shame Surrounding Addiction

Change your life – change where you think. When I first read this concept, I had no idea what it meant. From where else would I think if not my brain? In time, however, I learned about concepts like brain wiring, mapping and development. I learned about the evolution of the human brain, and how…

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What is at the Core of Addiction

I am asked this question – What is at the Core of Addiction (aka Severe Substance Use Disorder)? – in some form or another, over and over and over, again. And typically, by the time a person is asking me, they are at their wits end. For they, like tens of millions of other Americans…

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Courage to Change for Recovery’s Sake

courage to change for recovery's sake

Courage to change for recovery’s sake. “What do you mean?,” you might ask. Followed by, “I have courage, and I’ve tried just about everything I know to do to change things. How in the heck do you think I’ve lasted this long in a marriage with an alcoholic?” (or some similar close relationship: parent, brother,…

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Don’t Let Someone’s Drinking Ruin Your Holidays

Don’t let someone’s drinking ruin your holidays is easy to say, but doing it? That’s another matter. You’ve likely been hurt, frustrated, concerned, angered, and/or scared by a family member or friend’s drinking if you’re reading a post with a title like this. So what can you do when holiday celebrations involve drinking? The short…

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Healing the Wounds of Codependency

Darlene Lancer on Shame

Healing the wounds of codependency is critically important for family members and friends of loved ones with alcohol or other drug use disorders.  What this means and how to do it is explained in today’s post by Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, a frequent guest author on this site. As Darlene writes, [until healed] “We continue…

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Secondhand Drinking: Society’s Problem

Secondhand drinking is society’s problem. Most of us are unaware (don’t notice) it exists in our workplaces, schools, families and communities. Most of us don’t know nearly 80 million Americans are directly affected, as are hundreds of millions more worldwide. This count doesn’t include those indirectly affected. As such, you or someone you know are…

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