Help for Families | Secondhand Drinking | Codependency
As Drinking Escalates the During Covid 19 Pandemic – Interview with Lisa Frederiksen
As drinking escalates during the Covid-19 Pandemic under the stay-at-home orders put in place to combat the spread of the virus, families need answers. What should they do if they find half-empty bottles — pour them out or line them up on the kitchen counter and confront their loved one? What should they do if…
Read MoreWhat Now – When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much
When your loved one drinks too much – what now? After 16+ years of doing this work, even I am surprised by the significant increase in emails I’m receiving from readers under Covid-19 stay-at-home orders. They’ve discovered hidden bottles or caught their loved one in lies covering up their relapse. They’ve realized they just can’t…
Read MoreWhat To Do When Your Loved One is in Treatment
Your loved one has finally decided (or was left with no other option than) to seek treatment for their alcohol or other drug use disorder. You’ve long wanted and fought hard for this. But instead of feeling confident that all will be well, you feel a tumult of emotions. And perhaps the voice screaming loudest…
Read MoreHealth Consequences of Secondhand Drinking | Drugging
The health consequences of secondhand drinking | drugging (SHD) can be as far-reaching as those experienced by the person with an alcohol or drug use disorder. They are the impacts experienced by the family member or friend who is repeatedly on the receiving end of a person’s drinking or other drug use or substance use…
Read MoreAlcoholism is a Family Disease – Really
Alcoholism is a family disease I was told by the staff at the residential treatment center my loved one entered for his alcoholism. “Oh brother, you can’t be serious!” I countered. “And what do you mean, I’m a codependent, an enabler, and that I should get help. I don’t need help — he’s the one…
Read MoreLiving With a Heavy Drinker Under Coronavirus Stay-at-Home Orders
I know a lot about what coping with (and in some cases living with) a heavy drinker is like. But I have absolutely no idea of what it’d be like if I were living under a statewide, Coronavirus “stay-at-home” order. I try to image doing my full-time, out-side-the home job from home, while coordinating my…
Read MoreA Parent’s Drinking – A Child’s Adverse Childhood Experiences
A parent’s drinking – a child’s adverse childhood experiences is a connection that’s often missed. Sadly, this missed connection can cause a child to develop an alcohol use disorder or marry someone with an alcohol use disorder or develop a host of physical and emotional ailments that can last a lifetime. As importantly, this connection can…
Read MoreChoosing to Forgive an Alcoholic
Choosing to forgive an alcoholic… Depending on how long you’ve been living and/or coping with a loved one’s alcoholism, this can be one of the most difficult concepts to grasp, let alone embrace – choosing to forgive your alcoholic. I’d repeatedly been told that alcoholism was like any other disease, and I wanted to (and…
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