Shame | Darlene Lancer Shares Her Shame Experience

Shame. Shame like that which surrounds all concerned when substance use or mental health disorders are part of a family’s dynamic. “It lurks in the unconscious, undermines self-esteem, and creates anxiety and havoc in our lives. The magnitude of feeling different, inadequate, or inferior can be unbearable. It’s the feeling of being a bad, unworthy person,”…

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Cognitive Distortions – When Reality Isn’t What You Think | Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT

Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT, explains cognitive distortions.

Cognitive distortions, like overgeneralizing, labeling, self-criticism, and black-and-white/all-or-nothing thinking, can “skew your perceptions” and may be caused by “the anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, or perfectionism that often accompany codependency.” Darlene Lancer, a frequent guest blogger on BreakingTheCycles.com, helps readers understand cognitive distortions, how they harm us, and what a person can do to stop or…

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CoOccurring Disorders | Anger | Addiction | Recovery Connection

CoOccurring Disorders and the anger, addiction, and recovery connection is important to understand when assessing how best to help someone treat their addiction and succeed in long-term recovery. Today’s guest author, Joe Koelzer, delves into the complexities of this connection in his article shared below. Joe holds a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from the…

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Managing the Fear and Anxiety of the Unknown

The following is a guest post by Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/. All…

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