Posts Tagged ‘codependency’
New Years’ Resolutions – 5 Tips on How to Keep Them
New Years’ Resolutions – we often make them but within weeks are having a hard time following through. Darlene Lancer shares 5 tips for keeping yours this year, but first, a bit about Darlene. Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and…
Read MoreAlcohol Abuse | Drug Abuse – Is a Family Member or Friend’s Substance Abuse Ruining Your Holidays?
Alcohol abuse | drug abuse – Tis the season, I’m afraid. Based on the outreach I receive from Thanksgiving through the New Year, year after year, the holidays are often the time when family members and friends have extended periods of time with a loved one who abuses drugs or alcohol. This means extended periods…
Read MoreRecovery Tools as Close as Your iPhone
Recovery tools on an iPhone app? I was so taken with Holly Hess’s story of her codependency recovery journey and her husband’s addiction recovery journey and how she took their experiences and merged them with her professional IT talents to recreate a tool box of recovery in an iPhone app, that I invited her to…
Read MoreCodependency or Interdependency? What’s the Difference?
Codependency or Interdependency? What makes a relationship a healthy one, which is a concept of particular concern for those living with the family disease of addiction. The following is a guest post by Darlene Lancer, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and author of How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits,…
Read MoreCourage to Change the Things I Can
COURAGE to change the things I can. This is the 2nd line of the Serenity prayer. Unfortunately, for decades, I interpreted “courage” to mean having the guts, the drive, the stick-to-it-ness to keep at it until I got the things not in keeping with how I felt they should be – changed. As you can…
Read MoreShame: The Core of Addiction and Codependency
Shame is a crippling emotion for codependents and addict | alcoholics. It is at the core of their role in the family disease of addiction, and it is what can keep them from getting the help they need to change their lives. The following is a guest post by Darlene Lancer, a Licensed Marriage and…
Read MorePreventing Secondhand Drinking Is Not About Prohibition
Secondhand drinking is term to describe the impacts on the person who is on the receiving end of another person’s drinking behaviors. Drinking behaviors include: drunken arguments crazy, convoluted accusations verbal, physical or emotional abuse driving while impaired, riding in a car with an impaired driver unprotected, unwanted, unplanned sex, sexual assault blackouts. We rarely…
Read MoreRecovery for Family Members of Addicts | Alcoholics
Recovery for family members of addicts and alcoholics — meaning to really let go of the worry, fear and angst over a loved one’s substance abuse or addiction, to forgive them and oneself for the insanity the disease caused in one’s life, to really understand what it means to set boundaries and let go of…
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