Posts Tagged ‘loving an alcoholic’
Loving an Alcoholic – How to Find YOUR Sanity If You Do
Loving an alcoholic can be crazy-making because so little is really understood or acknowledged about the impacts on the family member or friend who loves someone who drinks too much. Yet it is the family member or friend who is on the receiving end of the drinking behaviors. In other words, on the receiving end…
Read MoreDetach. Detach With Love. You’ve Got to Be Kidding!
Detach with love? You can’t be serious?! After ALL they’ve done to me — no way! I’ve been in so many situations where my heart goes out to the wives, husbands, children and parents of loved ones with alcohol or other drug use disorders (aka alcoholism or addiction) who are brand new to this journey…
Read MoreWhat is Love When You Love an Alcoholic
If you love an alcoholic, you know the pain of watching your loved one continue their downward spiral as you try desperately to do anything and everything to help them. And what do you do when the treatment professional you’ve consulted tells you that you must “detach with love” in order to help your loved…
Read MoreAlcohol Abuse | Drug Abuse – Is a Family Member or Friend’s Substance Abuse Ruining Your Holidays?
Alcohol abuse | drug abuse – Tis the season, I’m afraid. Based on the outreach I receive from Thanksgiving through the New Year, year after year, the holidays are often the time when family members and friends have extended periods of time with a loved one who abuses drugs or alcohol. This means extended periods…
Read MoreSecondhand Drinking is Not About Prohibition
Secondhand drinking was the topic of my recent lecture with Stanford Medical students. During discussion, one student questioned using the term Secondhand Drinking – a term meant to invoke thoughts similar to those we have when we hear the term, Secondhand Smoke. In the case of secondhand smoke, the effort was to stop smoking to…
Read MorePreventing Secondhand Drinking Is Not About Prohibition
Secondhand drinking is term to describe the impacts on the person who is on the receiving end of another person’s drinking behaviors. Drinking behaviors include: drunken arguments crazy, convoluted accusations verbal, physical or emotional abuse driving while impaired, riding in a car with an impaired driver unprotected, unwanted, unplanned sex, sexual assault blackouts. We rarely…
Read MoreBehind Every Alcoholic or Drug Addict is a Family Member or Two or Three…
We often forget that behind every alcoholic or drug addict is a family member — often several family members — spouses, parents, children, siblings, grandparents, aunts and uncles. ________________________ The light in his eyes was gone – blind fury stared forth. Alex* was no longer there. I felt terror like I’d never known but knew…
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